Tommy,s answer is perhaps best suited for you Bluey . was just a basic widow hood system Jas , but not forgetting "routine" . the girls should have a copy of "Dave Allen,s widowhood year" . that will help them along . the old adage " to do the same over and over again , and expect diffrent results " is one of Albert Einsteins sayings that should be bore in mind . or as Tommy put it " mix it up a bit now and again.