RedCHEqHen,You have no idea how close your experience is to whats just happened to our family ,father inlaw had to have kidney removed (cancerous)resulting in failure of other kidney so gets dialysis 3 days per week ,has to travel 35 mls for this but anyway,while in hosp they discovered he had bone cancer but it was very slow progression and due to his other illness they didnt think he was up to the required type of treatment,he has been in hosp about 4 month ,well any way the wife gets a phone call from hosp and it went like this You know your father is very ill and maybey he would like to stop dialysis as the traveling is very hard on him ,if he stops he will have 3 weeks to live with dialysis maybey 4-5 weeks you might like to discuss this with him.Next day wife frantic spoke to his own doc he said thats not right no one can say how long he will live with treatment,so the doc phoned hosp we think because next day 8.15am a consultant from the hospital phoned and apologised profusely for the family upset .We are aware the outlook is bleak he is 86yrs old but what we dont want for him is to be cast off because someone thinks its waisting money