My wife the same mate, would not be able to have pigeons if it were not for her, 4 years a go when i started up she would not go near them, Thought they were going to attack her when out flying!!! :-) now she cleans out, feeds and waters them in the morning, lets them out, occasionally will pick a baby up, but shes getting there, :-)
She got to learn, as her and my son are racing against me next year :-)